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One of the most interesting aspects of art is how the same work can speak different, individual meanings to each new observer. Here is what I take away from Jane Austen’s Pride and Prejudice. What personal meanings does the book speak to you?
I deeply admire two chief qualities of the characters Elizabeth and Jane Bennet, qualities they display oppositely, as foils to each other.
I admire Jane’s commitment to honoring people, especially her family. She insists on speaking only positive words about other people (though she goes too far and makes it a prejudice; she insists on seeing only positive qualities of others as well). When I see the destruction caused by negative words spoken behind people’s back, not only in workplace and social contexts but—more devastatingly—in speaking badly about one’s significant other, sibling, parent, child, or other relative, I strongly desire to have Jane’s commitment to loyally honoring and protecting her loved ones through her words.
But I admire Elizabeth’s assertiveness. She also goes too far with it (her titled “prejudice” propels the story’s plot), but I do admire how she speaks her mind (unlike Jane). Since I spent most of my life trying to pacify and agree with everyone, I now pursue the ability to speak my own opinions boldly.
The ideal, to me, would be to combine the sisters’ good qualities—to have Elizabeth’s assertiveness and Jane’s commitment to honoring one’s relationships.